Signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries

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In my most recent blog, I talked about the dangers of therapists who may not have properly addressed their own psychological wounds, and may even be in denial about that. Perhaps they did a counselling or psychotherapy training, where they were told it wasn’t necessary to undergo their own personal therapy,  or just felt that they were not in need of it.

Man in a therapy session

For clients, what are maybe some of the potential signs to look out for to indicate that a therapist may have poor boundaries, or is not adhering to the ethical framework of whichever accrediting body they hopefully belong to  ? Read More

When a therapist’s wounds are too great to heal others

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It is undeniable that many people who are drawn to working in the helping/caring professions do so because of their own personal  journey in overcoming certain challenges that might have been blocking them from their true potential – often  they have  first hand experience of how powerful and life changing counselling or psychotherapy can be.  Certainly in my own life, therapy helped me to find a more fulfilling and happy path and to accept myself and to grow as a person, so I know it can work.

Carl Jung , a Swiss psychotherapist, came up with the concept of the’ wounded healer’, and by this he meant that many therapists ( and members of other caring professions ) feel compelled to treat clients,  because of their own psychological wounds. British counsellor and psychotherapist Alison Barr’s  research, showing that 73.9% of counsellors and psychotherapists have experienced one or more wounding experience in their own life, supports Jung’s theory.

This is by no means a bad thing ; in fact someone who has suffered at some stage in their life and managed to look at what Jung called his or her ‘shadowy side’ head  on,  is likely to have empathy and compassion for those who need help with their own struggles in life. However it is when a therapist hasn’t properly faced up to or acknowledged their own demons, there is the danger of empathy slipping over into sympathy and the boundaries getting blurred.  In other words, therapists need to have real insight into their own wounds in order to heal others. Read More